How to Choose The Perfect Sex Toy For Women’s Solo Play

How to Choose The Perfect Sex Toy For Women’s Solo Play

If this is your first time looking for sex toys for solo play, you should start with a bullet vibrator. 


They are generally made for external use. It's understandable if you don’t want to insert a vibrator inside your vagina for the first time. 


The thing about vibrators is there is no right or wrong way to use them. You don’t even have to use the vibrator on your intimate parts. You can run it over your body, try different patterns, and find out what you like. 


Over time, you can upgrade to more advanced toys like the G-spot vibrator. 


Now, while there are all kinds of female sex toys you can use, this checklist would be a little geared towards vibrators. After all, vibrators are the stepping stone for sex toys for women. 

1. Body-Safe Material

The Canadian sex toy industry is still unregulated. So, when it comes to sex toys, you have to do your own research.  


For one, you should not buy any toy with phthalates in them. The chemicals are typically found in TPE plastic or rubber toys. These are harmful chemicals banned from children’s toys, though the same hasn’t been done for adult toys. 


This doesn’t mean you can’t buy TPE plastic or rubber toys. But be sure to check the ingredient list. 


Additionally, porous toys, like rubber, TPE, and TPR can be dangerous if you don’t exercise caution. You can never properly sanitize these toys, as your body fluid and sweat seep into the material and stay there.


So, it’s advised to wrap a condom around the toy if it’s made of porous material.


If you have the money, you should always go for non-porous options. If you can’t afford silicone, stainless steel, or glass, you should at least buy hard plastic toys. 


Non-porous toys do not have tiny holes in them, nor are they likely to cause allergic reactions. Meanwhile, there’s a good number of people who have allergic reactions to rubber.


But we can’t ignore how inexpensive porous toys can be. If you do go for a porous toy, go for the ones you don’t have to use internally. The more internal fluids you get on the toy, the more they are likely to give you an STI. 


You also want to throw out any toy with cracks or damage.  

2. Type of the Toy

The experience you will have with a dildo or a butt plug is distinctly different from a panty vibrator.


You have to first decide what kind of stimulation you are looking for before you can buy the toy. 


Some people have an oral fixation, so you might like an oral stimulator. Others might want to know what anal sex feels like, so they opt for anal beads. 


Not to mention you can consider all of these toys a type of vibrator if it has a motor with some sort of vibration or suction settings in them.  


Vaginal vibrators, in particular, come in 6 different categories:

  • Bullet vibrators are super tiny, extra quiet, and extremely travel-friendly. Since they’re usually no more than 3 to 4 inches in length, you can carry a bullet vibe around in your purse. The design imitates bullet encasings, which is the secret behind the name. 
  • Clitoral vibrators typically work your clit by stimulating it with vibrations. However, there are also some special vibrators like the Womanizer Premium Eco Rose which works with a special kind of patented technology. These kinds of vibrators suck or send air pressure to the clit without vibrations. Another popular product in this range is the Lelo Sila Clitoral Stimulator. Considering clitoral stimulation is often a key factor in making women orgasm, it’s a type of toy you want to add to your collection. 

  • G-spot vibrators are meant to stimulate the G-spot. So, the insertable tip often has a curved, round, or hook shape. It’s so when you insert the vibrator, the vibrator comes directly in contact with your G-spot. You will also find some double-ended G-spot vibrators in the market. Typically, one insertable length is for G-spot stimulation and the other is for external clit stimulation.   


Panty vibrators are similar to bullet vibrators. You attach it to your panty with a magnet that keeps it from falling off. It gives a pleasant, external stimulation you can enjoy all day. 

  • Rabbit vibrators usually have two vibrating ends. One part is insertable and the other is for external use, meant to send vibrations to the clit. Due to the design of the vibrator, it often looks like rabbit ears from the side, which is the secret behind the name. 


Wand vibrators are used externally for stimulating the clit. Their unique shape might be the biggest difference in setting them apart from other vibrators. Wands look like a microphone, so no one ever suspects it to be anything else. They also have more to grab onto, compared to a bullet vibrator. Not to mention wands have rumbly vibrations, while other vibrators on the list are more buzzy. 


A particularly popular vibrator is the Magic Wand Plus. The Magic Wand is almost synonymous with the wand vibrator because of a particular feature. It comes with a cord you can directly plug into the wall. So, the vibrations are particularly strong, especially compared to battery-powered ones. 



Look through the different categories and see what strikes your interest. You will know what to buy then. 


For your first time, you might also prefer smaller vibes. Anything big as a sex toy can be intimidating. So, bullet vibrators or G-spot vibes make the most sense. 

3. Noise Level


If it’s not whisper-quiet, it’s not worth it. Make sure the sound is below 40 dB. A noisy vibe will ruin the mood. Plus, you don’t want to alert your roommate or any family member you may have around, do you?

4. Battery-Powered or Rechargeable

Most sex toys these days are rechargeable. They are more expensive than battery-powered ones, but last longer. 


But you have to make sure it’s fully charged before you use one. Otherwise, it might fizzle out in the middle of playtime, which could annoy you. 


With battery-powered toys, you can replace the batteries if the batteries lose their power. But these toys also tend to become unusable within 6 months. 

5. Remote Control

Some sex toys have buttons on the toy so you can control the patterns and speed settings. Others come with another device so you can have more hands-free fun with the device.


App-controlled vibrators are ideal if you are in a long-distance relationship.

6. Travel Lock

If you plan on taking your vibrator on trips, look for the ones with travel locks. You don’t want to accidentally turn the vibrator on and advertise you got one to the entire plane. 

Final Thoughts

You will never know which is the perfect toy for you until you try lots of different ones. A safe bet is to start with a bullet vibe. It’s for external use and can give you a good idea if you enjoy a particular kind of intense massage. 


If you are looking for a discreet toy for women’s solo play, go for the Calexotics Naughty Bits Bad Bitch Lipstick Vibe. It’s practically a lipstick to the untrained eye. 

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