Before you ask, yes. The g-spot does exist and there is really nothing all that mysterious about it once you find the elusive little spot and start exploring it. The reason that such a debate about this area still continues, even in 2018, is that a g-spot or vaginal orgasm is often quite difficult for a woman to achieve. This is especially true during partnered sex with a male as in a lot of sex positions the penis just doesn’t hit this area. It slides right on past.
Simply put, the g-spot is an area of increased sensitivity that feels seriously amazing when it is stimulated. The problem is that the area only becomes engorged when the female is aroused which can make it quite difficult to find, even for the owner of the body. So, a lot of women tend to give up if they don’t find it straight away and rely on the clitoris to achieve orgasm.
While the clitoris is an amazing part of our bodies and clitoral orgasms feel seriously good, as females we tend to rely on this as our only path to orgasm. But the female body has a huge capacity for pleasure. Sometimes it just takes a bit of work. But once you experience a g-spot orgasm, or a blended orgasm – a clitoral and g-spot orgasm at the same time – it will all be worth it! In fact, women that achieve g-spot orgasms often claim that it is the most intense orgasm a woman can have and these little beauties are designed to get you there.
So what is this work we're referring to? Well, it can take a few trials to actually locate the g-spot in the first place. The g-spot is located on the upper front wall of the vagina about two inches in. It is a cluster of tissue about the size of a bean and has a slightly ruffled or rough texture. The area actually swells when you are aroused, so the more turned on you are, the easier it will be to find.
So you know where it is, now what? Well, there are 3 main ways to find the g-spot. Here’s what we recommend.
Find your g-spot using your fingers
If it’s your first time exploring, then we definitely recommend using your fingers first. Just remember to clean your hands before you start and feel free to use some lubricant to make things a bit easier. It will also help if you are aroused, so maybe start by stimulating your clitoris first then you can insert two fingers into your vagina. Your palm should be facing upwards so that your fingers are pointing towards your belly button. Once you are about two inches in, curl your fingers upwards and gently start stroking. The area will feel slightly ridged and have a different texture to the rest of your vagina so you should know when you hit it.
Once you find it, start moving your fingers in a ‘come hither’ motion, like you would when you are gesturing to someone to come over to you. This will feel like a massage to your g-spot and you should start to feel those pleasure waves rolling in. If you are lucky enough to start feeling the hint of an orgasm coming, then rest your fingers against the spot and apply a bit more pressure to take your orgasm over the edge!
Try out a g-spot sex toy
If your fingers aren’t quite cutting it then another option is to use a sex toy. Now, you may be thinking, “I have an internal vibrator and it doesn’t work!” That’s because a classic vibrator shape just won’t cut it. You need to get a vibrator or dildo that is specifically designed to target that area. What you are looking for is a toy with a tapered or bulbous tip. There are literally thousands of toys on the market now that are designed like this, with some of them working better than others.
Our go-to, and the one that we always recommend, is the Lelo Ina Wave. You know that ‘come hither’ motion we were talking about? Well, the Lelo Ina Wave actually mimics that motion and the end of the shaft moves in a back and forward motion to stimulate your g-spot directly. How cool is that?! And, just to make things even more pleasurable, it’s also a rabbit vibrator which means that you get direct stimulation to your clitoris as well. Hello, blended orgasm! And Lelo really is one of the best brands out there when it comes to luxurious toys for female pleasure, so you know that it will be a very high-quality toy.
Get on top
Got a male partner? Then it’s time to get on top! As we mentioned earlier, in most sex positions, the penis won’t actually directly hit the g-spot but there are a few positions that will. Your best bet is to go with the woman on top so that you can control the depth and movement. Try leaning your body back a bit so that the penis is directed more towards the front wall of the vagina. We also recommend trying out some serious grinding action against the penis. Move your body back and forward rather than up and down along the shaft so that his penis really hits right against the front wall of the vagina. It may take a few tries and a bit of wriggling around into different spots before you get there but that just means more sex. So it’s win-win!
Now, an extra bonus when you are on top is that this also leaves open access to your clitoris so you or your partner can stimulate the clitoris while you are on top and achieve that wonderful blended orgasm. Isn’t the body fun?!
A few things to remember
Now, keep in mind that when the g-spot is stimulated, you will likely feel an instant sensation of needing to pee. Don’t worry about this, it’s simply because pressure on the g-spot is the same pressure that also indicates that you have a full bladder. This is normal and it passes pretty quickly. Just keep the stimulation going and it will change to a much more pleasurable feeling in no time! Just relax your body and allow that feeling of pressure to pass and let the pleasure roll in.
G-spot orgasms tend to be mind-blowing but it’s also ok if you don’t actually like the sensation, it gets a lot of hype but for some women, it just feels like an uncomfortable or sometimes overwhelming pressure. If this is the case for you, you are not alone but we still recommend trying out a few of these techniques to see if one of them works to stimulate you in a way that you enjoy. And don’t forget the lubricant as this can really help to ease some of the friction when you are touching the g-spot.
So get exploring that body! It might take a bit of effort but it will all be worth it in the end when you start experiencing the incredible sensational pleasure of a g-spot orgasm.
Comment below and let us know if you found your g-spot and how you enjoyed it!